I wana tell you a story as to why I know how IMPORTANT it is to know what your values & beliefs are.

Both of these examples stem from when I was a virtual assistant!

Lil back story about me being a Virtual Assistant incase you didn’t know; so when I left yachting I started my own womenswear eco clothing line, after a few years as this turned into more of a hobby of mine, I found that my intuition was guiding me more to help female entrepreneurs within the things that I struggled with, & I taught myself when I started my clothing line - this is where my Virtual Assistant business stemmed from :)

I took on sooooo many projects that weren’t aligned with the direction I wanted to go in within my brand. I did a whole mix of different things from Instagram management, to website design, to Canva design, to data entering, to book grammar checking & writing, to transcribing, to travel research, to Pinterest management, to customer service, to Etsy management, omg I could go on haha but I did a whole load of different things…..

From the above, you can tell that it was not a niche biz, & tbh I didn’t know what I loved or enjoyed until I tried diff things so I guess that was a huge benefit of the above, & of course, I only know what I do now, bcus of my experience doing all these different things, & finding out what actually set my soul on fire.

If I had known what my values & beliefs were before I had started my VA biz, or if I had written them down, & outlined them, It would have been real clear to me which ones I would have said yes to & which ones I would have said no to, which projects excited me, & which projects I was like this is my worst fcking nightmare pahahaha!

I didn’t take into consideration my values & beliefs bcus I said yes to so many projects just bcus of the money, & this is why I strongly disagree with creating a brand, & a biz bcus of the money, bcus it absolutely ruined me, yes I was the breadwinner in my relationship which I loved lol, BUT I was NOT happy, & I truly do not believe that money makes us happy, it makes our lives easier defo, but happiness does not come from the amount of money you have in your bank - I am a stern believer of this! ( I mean I have so many stories that stem from yachting as to my beliefs surrounding this too!)

It didn’t make me happy, it made me stressed out, I actually had a crazy outburst once where I thought I was going crazy, & I literally just exploded, & I was like omg this has to stop - this was a huge wake up call for me!

Tbh most decisions come down to the types of people I would be working with & helping, which leads me onto my next story…..

I said yes to pretty much everyone, no matter what the project was, or who the person was! Again if I had known my values & beliefs before I started my VA biz I would have saved myself from the major heartache that one in particular female gave me, but of course I believe that everything happens for a reason, & these were all monumental learning curves for me, which I appreciate now, & I love the direction I went after soooooo ;)

Just a reminder that every bad experience, every fail, every negative there is always a learning curve, or a positive that comes from it, often it leads us down the path are meant to go down.

So anyway I started working with one particular girl which I knew even from our first call that her personality did not align with mine. I am a very good people reader, it’s why they used to get me to do the recruitment onboard, & when I worked in retail too, I can tell by the way people talk, by their tone, by what they say pretty much what i’m guna get from them lol. So I said yes to this girl’s project, tbh I fell in love with the mission, & her vision & that’s what really sold this project to me.

It was the worst decision I have ever made, I hands down will say that bcus I worked for her for only 3-4 months but it was the worst time ever, & I knew throughout that I was not happy, it was making me miserable, she was down grading me, making me feel hopeless, & useless even though I knew I wasn’t, she was basically bullying me the whole way through our time together, it was horrific, & anyway, she ended the contract which i’m so glad she did bcus of some silly reason, but im so thankful for that - PHEW !!!

But my oh my did I learn a lot about that experience; she’s the reason I stopped being a va actually, & re looked at my life, my happiness, I realigned to who I was, I started listening to podcasts, & learning new things, I did a lot of mindset work (which prior to this I had never felt the need to do, so this was the start of an incredible journey) but yeh one year later I began to create SISTERHOOD……

We all think we know what our Values & Beliefs are, but do we?
You’re probably thinking “I know what they are”

BUT

Do you actually?

It’s very rare, if ever that we outline what our values & beliefs are, UNTIL NOW…..

By outlining them, & writing them down, & firstly having a good’ol think about them we start putting these important things to us at the FOREFRONT of everything that we do.

& this is very important.

Can you start to see why outlining your Values & Beliefs are so important within your brand, & your life?

They fit, & run through pretty much every decision we make!

Which means they’re SUPER important, & thats why I really wanted to do training on this now, so you can start making decisions with them at the forefront!

1.

Here are some questions to help you uncover them - I was going to give examples to the below bcus I have loads, but I also think it would put words into your minds so I’ve left them out, so you have just the questions to get your mind working ;)

Print this doc out or grab an A4 notebook, & copy it -

▾ What do you admire in your friends?
▾ What do you admire in your family members?
▾ What makes you feel fulfilled?
▾ What’s important to you in regards to health & nutrition?
▾ What’s important to you in regards to the way you bring your children up? Obvs if it relates haha, Hannah ;)
▾ What does your morning routine look like, whats important for you to always do in the mornings (these are called non negotiables)
▾ What do you enjoy doing on your time off?
▾ What’s important to you in regards to travel?
▾ What do/did you love about yachting?
▾ What do you love, admire about your life partner/relationships?
▾ What’s important to you in your home?
▾ What products do you use?
▾ What do you do with your friends?
▾ What do you like in your home?
▾ What clothes do you wear?
▾ What makes you feel confident?

P.S. Write down anything else that comes to mind

2.

Go through your words, & outline the Values & Beliefs within your answers.
Write them on the left side of an A4 notebook or ⇣

3.

Once you have your list of the above, we’re now going to counteract that list, what is it you DO NOT like or agree with within these questions, what do you detest, fill these out to the right side of your paper.

It’s great us outlining our Values & Beliefs, but how do we actually make them have an impact in our brands, & our lives,

= we take a step back when we’re about to make a decision!

So many women make decisions on impulse, like it has to be answered straight away, or you need to tell someone straight away to show how keen you are, or to please them

BUT

it’s actually better for us to take a step back, ask for some time, if it’s somebody asking you if you want to do something say, “I’ll get back to you when I can”, or “I’ll get back to you next week”, or “give me an hour or so”

>>> there is nothing wrong with doing this!

Then what you do is go to your list of Values & Beliefs (I highly recommend you write them in a pocket notebook, your journal, or planner, & defo in your notes on your phone (as we know you always have your phone on you), & whatever it is they’re asking of you see if it aligns with what you Value & Believe in within your life, 

If yes, then fab, if no then say NO !

By saying NO more to things that dont align with you, you will feel incredible, & super empowered!
& trust me you will start saying no more often ;)

P.S. If you think of a great question that you think would benefit others within Sisterhood to answer then let us know so we can do it too :)